When did you first give up drinking and why?
Drunk Kayla was an extremely lost individual. I was either the life of the party, or the girl passed out in the bathroom. I didn’t really have an identity, I just knew I didn’t like myself and that drinking allowed me to forget that. I was very sad, and very lonely, regardless of how it looked from the outside.
When I decided to quit drinking I was at my proverbial rock bottom; day long hang-overs, ruining relationships, horrible mental health. I had an especially bad night, and to quote Marc Lewis PhD, “I’d hit my threshold of disgust.” I just couldn’t do it anymore, my bad experiences outweighed the good ones by a mile.
What are some misconceptions of being sober?
Sobriety is preconceived as being boring, but that is really dependent on the person. Yes it’s a bit more uncomfortable at times, but the fun doesn’t stop, it’s just a different kind of party.
How do you feel when others are drinking around you?
To be honest, I don’t love being around people when they are drinking. Not because I feel at risk in my own sobriety, but because I’ve educated myself on alcohol. Alcohol is a carcinogenic toxin that should be classified as a class 1 controlled substance. People don’t realize how dangerous it really is. I mean, how comfortable would you feel around a bunch of people smoking meth or shooting dope? That’s genuinely how I feel; uncomfortable and worried for others' health.
Where should people start if they are sober-curious?
Those who are sober-curious should find like-minded people, it’s a lot easier to attain goals when you have a support system. Find a group like mine, @1000hoursdry that will uplift you.
What are some difficulties people may come across when going sober?
Keeping the same lifestyle and relationships you had before is extremely difficult. People try to keep everything the same and just cut out the booze, but I’ve found that usually isn’t the only problem. Be ready to cut ties with certain people and habits that aren’t good for you, or that enable your drinking habits.
What would you say to people who are scared to stop drinking because they feel like they’ll be forfeiting their social life?
If you’re afraid that sobriety will kill your social life, then it’s already dead. If you can’t enjoy the people around you or the events you are attending without booze then you really have no business being there. You will have a social life, but it will be based on things you actually like to do, which you will figure out on the journey to finding your new sober self.